I’m a daily blogger who needs to get things out. As I’ve been overwhelmed by work the last three weeks, it’s been difficult to get me from inside to dumped on here.
I’ve really been at 110% for several weeks, and it has been a bit strange for me. I have barely seen my boys since they returned from Hilton Head. They’ve been here, and we’ve walked past one another, but I haven’t really interacted much with them. It’s not that I’ve mistreated them or my wife, I’ve just been unable to take a breath and focus on each of them individually or even as a group.
Working alone most of the time definitely affects you. It gives one a false sense of how much you’re getting done, overshooting and underestimating regularly. I may be much more productive than I realize, I don’t know.
In case you missed it, here is an incredible article from the Sunday NY Times Magazine. It’s called When Mom and Dad Share it All, and it is a fascinating exploration into the world of the distribution of labor in the household among husband and wife. Whether you struggle with this or not (and especially if you’re oblivious to the whole topic), I’d highly recommend reading it.
My wife and I used to have a very structured process to sharing the workload of the home before kids. We divided chores then drew any bad chores from a hat, sort of like a draft. We then could trade them back and forth if required. Fast forward seventeen years and three boys, and I work while she does the housework for the most part (who am I kidding–for the TOTAL part). The article is pretty sobering, especially from someone who does little around the house.
